Category Archives: Mortality

Musings about getting older – the physical, mental, and attitudinal changes that come (good and bad) – and the inevitability of death – our own and that of those we love.

The Only Things

Stay home.  Go out.
Sit still.  Exercise.
Tolerate clutter.  Tidy up.
Stay awake.  Sleep soundly.

These are the things, the only things.

Walk smartly.  Drive safely.
Read a book.  Write a blog.
Plan a meal.  Choose take-out.
Talk freely.  Keep quiet.

These are the things, the only things.

Think without drifting.
Talk without babbling.
Laugh without crying.
Breathe without aching.

These are the things, the only things
That I can’t do while my mother is dying.


Marjorie Mae Gibson died 10 June 2017.

 

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Happy Birthday to Me

Today I turn, am, have, or complete 65, depending on your language (and those are just the few that I know). But whatever the verb, it’s an odd moment: long expected and yet totally surprising.  I cannot yet comment on the state itself but as I sit here, between the idea and the reality, I have a few random thoughts, as the aged often do.  Continue reading

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The Deadline Cometh

In five days, the Big Guy and I will arise early and cheerily, throw our overnight bags into the back seat of our car, and start a six-day drive home.  Before that, we will complete a miscellany of tasks related to being here, being anywhere, preparing to leave here, and readying ourselves to be elsewhere.  Continue reading

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Be Early What

Be early what, if you are not, you will, when too late, wish you had been.
– Philip Stanhope, 4th Earl of Chesterfield (then 55)
in a February 7th, 1749 letter to his illegitimate son (then 17);
published in (wait for it . . .) “Letters of Lord Chesterfield to his Son”

Midway through a long-ish paragraph I almost blow past this sentence, disinclined to make the effort to sort through the asides that threaten to derail my train of thought.  My train of thought was pretty linear to start with, and has become more so after 25 years of working to improve the readability of technical sales documents.   Continue reading

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In Perpetuity

Wandering around Victoria BC on a blue-sky day a few months ago, I was on the lookout for photography opportunities. Failing to see any grasses atop stone walls, I was momentarily stumped.

But the ever-helpful photography gods are never far off, and so—in a Love-the-one-you’re-with sort of way—I began to notice signs, built into the very buildings themselves.   Signs that no longer applied to what was within; signs for businesses that had simply moved on or gone the way of all flesh. Continue reading

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