An unexpected question about Valentine’s Day leads to the truth about relationships.
When is Valentine’s Day this year?
The retired air force colonel and I are herding cats—aka running a proposal—and have taken a mental-health break to run a shopping errand at noon. It being early February, the downtown mall is littered with red and silver hearts, white plush teddy bears, chocolate roses, and other signs of the season. His question catches me off guard. Immersed in a ‘read the question, answer the question’ discipline, I think for a minute and decide to go for clarification on the question.
Umm, do you mean what day of the week? After all, what else can he mean?
Nope. He means ‘what date’. Ah.
Well, February 14 this year – just like every year.
A loving and devoted husband of several decades and something of a teddy bear himself, he’s the last guy I’d have expected to need a prompt on this matter, yet here we are.
The surprise of that 1994 conversation has lasted nigh on twenty years; his happy marriage still shows no sign of wear or tear. Sir, this is your annual reminder: Valentine’s Day is today. But somehow I think you’ve got it under control, even without the hearts, bears, and roses.